Anger – Suppress It Or Express It?

Anger: Should you express it or suppress it is an age old debate. People who promote suppressing anger do so on the premise that letting anger out will cause damage to both your self and to others. Those who say you should express anger do so on the premise that you will be relieved and calmer by letting it go.

In actual fact you shouldn’t express it or suppress it. Here are the reasons:

By suppressing anger the result will usually be that the anger will recoil and lash back at you from within in such a way that you’ll have little or no control over it. That recoiled anger can be very destructive to the self and others. By expressing anger, although most people experience a temporary relief from the tension of holding onto anger the long term result is that you are develop[ping the tendency towards being angry and giving it out. Such a person is getting more and angrier as time goes on.

So what to do? The best method is to control anger so you don’t express it or suppress it. To control anger means to master the emotion before it becomes too powerful for you. When something happens that you know is going to make you angry or you see something that starts to get the emotion going that is the moment to immediately interrupt the polarization of your emotions to anger. In a very simple way it is in fact quite possible to choose not to be angry. Yes, it is that simple, so simple that very few people have ever tried choosing not to be angry. Most simply believe that it is human nature to be under the influence of anger and get angry. Try it and see. The next time you experience the onset of anger, whether it is a slow burning up or a rapid blaze about to start, think: STOP and create thoughts contrary to anger; thoughts of tolerance, thoughts of peace, thoughts of good feelings. This works! Give love or even soothing talk to either calm the self down; just like you would to an angry or upset child: there, there, it's ok, it’s ok

Accept that you have anger. Denying that you have anger is pointless. It's ok to have the emotion of anger. Now you only need to control it. Start with self forgiveness and go on from there. It helps to understand that any one who is angry is very weak even though they may seem powerful. Anger is like a ‘paper tiger’ where as peace is a true power that is latent in all of us. The proof of that is that everyone prefers peace. Even the most violent of people will calm down from any rage after a while. That person’s calm state may be worse than your angry state but for them it is relatively calm. We all have hope.

Article Source: http://www.content.onlypunjab.com

For expert tips on anger management by Lewis Colyn try visiting 'relaxandchillout.info/angermanagement', a popular anger management website that provides advice, resources and tips on dealing with anger. There's also a section on 'anger management for kids'

Please Rate this Article

5 out of 54 out of 53 out of 52 out of 51 out of 5 

Not yet Rated