Finding Peace And Happiness

By: Uta Roggendorf

Life is a journey without a beginning and without an end. It is made up of an immense number of experiences, each one shaping the next. And these experiences are characterised by the emotions you feel whilst you’re going through that experience. If you feel negative feelings then don’t judge them as bad. Nothing is good or bad. It just is. You are the one who assigns the labels. What some people might experience as sheer bliss, for others it is just utter hell. If you love animals and nature and your friend loves motor races, how would you feel if you were attending a 2-day motor racing event with your friend? You would probably not be very happy, whilst your friend would be having a ball. That is how individual our experiences and their associated feelings are.

We can choose what we want to experience and even more so, we can choose how we want to feel during that experience. Choosing your experience is the same as following your truth. Listen to what you prefer deep inside and follow this preference. And if you follow what you prefer, then you will feel inner peace because you have chosen your preference and therefore there is nothing to dislike, i.e. not that can cause you to feel negative. Whilst you’re in an experience that you’ve chosen, you can still suddenly feel unhappy. Then again, listen to your inner voice and check what your preference is in that moment. When you then take the necessary steps to change your experience in accordance with your new preference and you change your feelings at the same time about your experience. There is no reason for you to feel unhappy ever. It is all in your power to change your experience in every moment and with that your feelings from negative to positive.

Your thoughts are very much part of you and who you are. Your thoughts guide you throughout your life and they are at the very beginning of what you create. Every step, every action, every creation, every experience starts with a thought. And that thought triggers another thought and so on. And when your thoughts - that are largely influenced by your experiences – are negative then it is very difficult to choose a positive experience to make the next thought a positive one.

Thoughts are immensely powerful but they are also hard to control one-by-one. Your emotions are therefore your best guidance system to follow because they always reflect the type of thoughts you have. If you tell yourself over and over again that your life is miserable and that you’re unhappy (as an example of a negative thought), then your emotions will reflect these thoughts and you will feel miserable. When you choose to think happy thoughts instead, then you will feel happy and empowered and you will experience inner peace. Therefore inner peace is a reflection of the emotions you have and at the root of this, which thoughts you chose.

It is important to understand that you choose your thoughts and your emotions. They do not enter you through some mysterious process. No, you are responsible for your thoughts and emotions and not the outer circumstances in your life. You experience certain circumstances because of your emotions and thoughts, not the other way round. The Universe sends us whatever matches our thoughts and feelings. If we feel lack, we will experience more lack. If we feel happy, we will attract more happiness. Once you accept this responsibility and really fully understand all its implications, then you can start to choose the thoughts that are in alignment with who you want to be.

Imagine some of the world’s top class athletes. They train to think success and winning. Part of their success is due to physical training, no doubt about that! But equally important is training the mind to see themselves winning. Do you think they never have moment of doubt? Of course they do but they have learned how to refocus their thoughts in a positive way. And just like athletes manage to break world records through physical and mental training, so can you refocus your thoughts and emotions on who you want to be in every moment of your life.

And the final step to be who you want to be is to follow through on your actions. Once you’ve ascertained what your truth is, you need to follow through with your actions. For example, if your preference is to go to the cinema, or start writing a book, or spend an evening with a dear friend, you need to take the appropriate action. Otherwise you’re creating an image in your subconscious of not being true to yourself. It is similar to promising a friend to do them a favour, e.g. invite them for dinner, and never actually following through on that. After some time the friend won’t believe in the invitation any longer. It’s the same with your subconscious. If you only follow through on the surface by acknowledging your preference but never living it, never following through on it, then some part of you will feel cheated and you stop believing in yourself. And that is very damaging indeed to achieving the life you’ve dreamt of. You can’t tap into the abundant potential of this Universe and at the same time send yourself the message that you don’t believe in yourself. It’s as if you’re trying to drive a car with the handbrake on. It won’t work!

So when you become aware of your thoughts and feelings and when you ascertain what your truth is in every moment and when you then follow through with you actions, then you have a recipe for inner peace and happiness. Monitor your emotions and your thoughts and guide them towards peace and happiness success, love – whatever it is you desire in your heart.

Remember that this is a continuing process there will be many occasions during which you will feel challenged. Just focus on what is in the moment and don’t worry about what will be tomorrow or next year. Stay positive and stay in the moment at all times. Trust from the bottom of your heart that this is the way to achieve happiness and inner peace at all times. And trust that this is the only way to truly create the life you want. You need to understand on every level that thoughts creating negative emotions create negativeness in your life. Positive thoughts create positive emotions, which creates anything you’ve dreamt of. There are no limits in this Universe. You can achieve anything you want. Everybody can, look at the world’s greatest inventors and their creations, e.g. Henry Ford, Thomas Edison. All these people believed in themselves and continued to think positive through setbacks they experienced. They are no different from you. Everyone hast he same creative potential because we all come from the same Source, the same Universe. God doesn’t give some people 10% potential and others 90%. Everyone has the same potential to create the life they seek. It is up to you to decide which path you choose and what you want to create in your life. It doesn’t have to be the great next big invention. It can be having a family, a job you love, a web site, helping others, travelling the world, whatever your heart desires. Just focus on your truth and ignore those niggling doubtful thoughts. Instead change your thoughts to powerful positive ones that allow you to tap into this vast universal source of creation.

Uta Roggendorf is a certified IHSC Higher Self Life Coach and Teacher. Her work is to teach people how to be their authentic self and to find inner peace in every moment of their lives. Uta offers teleseminars and one-on-one client sessions.