Gardening Your Mind: Part 3 - Self limiting Beliefs and the Deep Rooted Never/Always Plant

In the first two parts of Gardening Your Mind we looked at two of the most negative weeds in the 'garden of our mind' that damage our self esteem and sap our ability to see the choices and opportunities that life presents to us. Part 3 explores another of these destructive garden pests, the Deep Rooted Never/Always plant. As before you'll find tips on how to get rid of it and what to grow in its place.

The Deep Rooted Never/Always plant

There's not much greenery to the Never/Always plant - just those two little words are all the foliage it needs. But chop the top off and it will grow back strong as ever, because the roots go very deep.

This plant can act as a signpost for us. It tells us that the garden of our mind is suffering from negative and self-limiting beliefs, and needs some well targeted nutrition in the form of specific positive self belief. Let me explain.

When we habitually use 'never' and 'always' about ourselves or the situations we find ourselves in, these words tend to signal a specific self-limiting belief. Statements like the ones below are virtually stating the self-limiting belief for you:

• 'I always screw up at the last minute'
• 'I never finish a job'
• 'She always beats me'
• 'I never get a lucky break'
  
  

• Take note of the sentences you use with never/always in them. Keep a note book with you and jot them down as they occur.
• Formulate the 'positive opposite' - though not with the words never/always in them, because it's unhelpful and unhealthy to believe that we never make mistakes. So instead of 'I always screw up' use 'I usually succeed'.
• Take time to tell yourself that your negative never/always statements are not true and counter it with evidence.
• Make a list of the times you've proved these statements false - and don't unfairly discount your achievements.
  
  

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Andrew Leigh helps people achieve fulfilling life direction and personal wellbeing, as well as working with established or aspiring artists and writers wishing to attain new levels of achievement. You can find a free self-coaching download, coaching tools and articles at his website www.pathwayscoaching.co.uk - or check out the fantastic one-to-one client results on his testimonial page www.pathwayscoaching.co.uk/testimonials

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