Is He Cheating On You

Is your boyfriend cheating on you? Do you know the signs that indicate he may be seeing someone else? Is his recent behavior getting more confusing and you can't figure out what is going on?

Being cheated on is to have your trust violated and your heart broken. You feel betrayed by the one you love and thought loved you. It can feel like the end of the world. However, the sooner you can know the truth and face the facts of your relationship, the sooner you can move on with your life.

What are the signs that he is cheating on you? Here are the three main patterns of behavior that cheaters fall into that spell something is S.A.D. between you:

S stands for Secretive

Your boyfriend may be cheating on you if he is acting secretive. Does he have a new cell phone and he has not given you the number? Does he have a new email address that he has not shared? Does he stay on the computer late at night? Does he sometimes whisper into the phone and then tell you it was a wrong number? Does he suddenly have to go somewhere for some strange reason? He is going to the gym more, working longer hours (but it doesn't show on his paystub,) getting new clothes, trying a new hairstyle, listening to new music, and making sure that the car is cleaned out? Does he hide the credit card bill each month and tell you he will take care of it at the office? If any of these secretive behaviors appear, you might look at why.

A is for Accusatory

If your boyfriend is cheating on you he may start to accuse you of cheating on him. When he first accuses you, it may sound funny because that may be the farthest thing from your mind, but that accusation is a red flag that something is going on with him. He may also pick fights with you over nothing and then get mad and storm out of the house. He makes these accusations because he feels guilty, and he picks fights to give himself a reason to go out to see her. He may also pick fights so you will break up with him and then he will feel absolved of guilt.

D stands for Detached

Cheating may be going on in your relationship if your boyfriend seems to be growing more and more detached from you. He has stopped sharing about his day or he isn't talking about his thoughts or his feelings like he used to. When you ask him why he is so quiet or what's going on, he says he's tired and he's had a hard day at work. Not only is he acting more detached from you, but so are his co-workers and some of his friends. These are the people who know he is seeing someone else. He may have also told them a lot of untrue stories about you to make you look bad. He's trying to justify his new love interest.

What can you do if you suspect your lover is untrue? You can seek counseling and support from an objective professional. You can insist your partner accompany you to counseling. And whether or not he will go, you can sit down to have a heart to heart talk and tell him what you see, feel, or know from concrete evidence. You can work this out for yourself, whether you choose to stay or leave. What is not a good idea is to suffer in silence, waiting for him to return to you emotionally. You deserve more than that.

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