Home | Self Improvement | Inspirational
There are choices and then there are decisions. Each of us makes millions of minor and major decisions and choices during our life journey.Some of these choices have very short term consequences while others may take years to come to fruition. Some may have apparent positive outcomes while others have seemingly negative outcomes.Some of these outcomes at first glance may in fact appear to be negative at first but turn out for the best, over the long term. Others, may have immediate positive benefits but with the passage of time become less than desirable or even harmful.You and I can’t escape making choices or decisions. From what you wear and eat each day to who you decide to marry and what career you choose to pursue and everything in between there is no escaping the responsibility to choose and decide.Many decisions seem to be made for us. From a merger or downsizing that leaves you unemployed to the random acts of violence that plague society each day there doesn’t seem to be much we can do about these and we certainly don’t have the ability to choose or not choose.Then there are the decisions that we make under stress or while faced with adversity that had our circumstances been different we might have chosen better or different.In the end each of us must personally deal with the consequences of our unique decisions. Some of these choices may in fact affect other people; children, spouses, employees, customers, neighbors or even total strangers while we must bear the results to others in loneliness and solitude.Even a decision to do nothing is a decision – not to act. Even a decision to abstain is a decision not to participate and a decision not to share, communicate or offer an opinion, feeling or attitude is a decision not to involve yourself.During my life I have made more decisions that were based on poor judgment, a lack of experience and nothing but raw hope and optimism that in hindsight could be either good or bad choices depending on how I chose to look at the outcomes. After failed marriages, being broke and a host of other seemingly negative consequences I could easily assume that the decisions made in a variety of circumstances were poor decisions or choices.For example; if I hadn’t married so and so maybe I wouldn’t have ended up getting divorced from so and so. If I had chosen not to be a speaker and author and work in corporate America my entire life maybe I would have never gone broke.Who is to say?However there is another way to look any and all of these outcomes. If I hadn’t married so and so I might not have three great kids and three wonderful grandchildren who I adore.If I had chosen corporate America, maybe I would have made more money and had a better lifestyle but would I have had the ability to meet thousands of wonderful people in over twenty countries?Who knows?One of the basic tenants of this message is that there are really no bad decisions. Now, I guarantee that if some of your decisions were run by family members, in-laws or even peers that many of these folks would be quick to judge your choices and decisions negatively or even harshly.Here’s my point. They are not living my life I am. I am not living their life, they are. No one has the right to judge another person’s life based on their perceptions, opinions or expectations.In the end each of us will pay the consequences either positive or negative to our choices and decisions along life’s difficult and often confusing path. You don’t get to delegate these to anyone else.Oh, you can whine and complain or boast and brag but beware – bad things can be wrapped in beautiful packaging and wonderful things can be disguised in ugly wrapping paper.
Article Source: http://www.content.onlypunjab.com
Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, That’s Life, Peace Of Mind, 81 Challenges Managers Face and Your First Year In Sales. He is also the CEO of Sales Clubs Of America. He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his websites at www.timconnor.com or www.SalesClubsOfAmerica.com
Please Rate this Article
5 out of 54 out of 53 out of 52 out of 51 out of 5
Not yet Rated
