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Are you going through your life in auto-pilot? Are you letting your responses and reactions to life’s circumstances and events be dictated by your previous values, attitudes and beliefs or are your responses a result of living in the present?Most people re-act (act again) as they go through life. They react to other people’s conscious or unconscious desire or ability to “push” their buttons or to situations without operating in the now moments of their life. Most people’s reactions find their origin in a person’s learned attitudes, beliefs, expectations, prejudices, values or historically directed emotions. When we react from our history we take the risk of:-over-reacting -under-reacting -reacting inappropriately -reacting too quickly -reacting too slowlyAny of these responses to any set of circumstances or people are doomed to cause continued stress, anxiety and continued un-resolved personal feelings. When a person RE-ACTS without getting conscious or thinking out of their present they will often say or do things they will regret later.Here are a few strategies to consider the next time you find yourself out of emotional control due to another person or an event.1. Take a quality pause, a brief 2-3 second break where you say to yourself – I have a choice. I can react the way I normally would have to this stimulus or I can react differently. With the quality pause you get out of auto-pilot and into the present.2. Develop the habit of counting to 5 slowly before you speak or act as a result of a stimulus.3. Give someone you are close to permission to alert you (make you aware) every time you react without pausing or taking the time to think through your response.4. Create personal anchors (a personal reminder) that automatically kicks in every time you find yourself losing emotional control.Living life out of auto-pilot is to live in the past. To live in the present only requires that you become conscious every time you are functioning from memory, expectations or the future.
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Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, relationship, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 3500 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 60 books including; Soft Sell, That’s Life, Peace Of Mind and The Male Gift Giving Survival Guide. He can be reached at tim@timconnor.com, 704-895-1230 or visit his website at www.timconnor.com
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