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When you find your relationship is in jeopardy and indeed even when your relationship is strong and stable, many people are quick to offer their "esteemed" opinion and "cherished" advice on your relationship. Now mind you, much of this advice is in reality wonderful advice that may contribute to the strength of your relationship's foundations, and truly worth considering. Unfortunately, too often some of this advice may be completely useless and irrelevant to your relationship and far worse some of this bad advice may even lead to more serious problems in your relationship. As most advice and tips are offered with all good intentions it is very difficult to know what relationship tips you should be paying attention to and what advice you are much better politely disregarding. We have put together for your convenience a list of the top 5 tips and tricks that we have found to have proven invaluable when trying to figure out relationship help and counseling. # Be time conscious Relationships do suffer equally from too much contact between partners, and not enough contact between partners. The trick to a healthy relationship is to find this balance. Too much focus on a relationship that leaves either partner with little or no outside interest or room to grow suffocates a relationship. A dependency on the relationship may develop from either partner where they rely on their relationship to provide far more than mutual companionship. Relationships often buckle under the strain of contact conflict where either party focuses a world of emotional energy. On the same hand relationships suffer from not enough contact, where all available energy and interest is obtained outside of the relationship leaving only drained remnants or forced commitment in place of real intimacy. Where it is very healthy for individuals to grow in their own right, there must be equal energy focused to the relationship, as two individuals feed into the unit. # Accept you partner for who they are, and not for whom you think, they should be. Learn to enjoy each others differences. Normally we subconsciously bring into our lives a partner who has different personality traits as they compliment and add depth to our own character. Remember your partner will not match your personality exactly. Unfortunately we sometimes fall into the trap of wanted out partner to be more like us in every way. That is just not a reasonable desire, expecially when you take into account that it was your partner's uniqueness that drew you to them in the first place. This should teach you to accept your partner for whom they really are, and not for the idea of who you would like them to be. # Treat and respect your partner with the same respect as you would any of your friends It's said when you think about it, but we generally treat our friends and family with more respect that we do are lovers/partners. Certainly this is not intended, and usually occurs without any knowledge of wrong doing what so ever. We would never dream of calling our girlfriends upset that she hasn't called you, or neglected to pay you attention. We would not ever mention to the guys that we were not happy with something they may have said or done. Most people involved in a relationship do forget that their partner is first and foremost their closest and most intimate friend. It's funny when a friend of ours gets too involved in a party and embarrasses themselves wearing the lamp shade, nine out of ten times we will probably even join them or just enjoy watching them enjoy themselves whilst making notes to remind them in the morning. It's different when it's your partner, we will get upset and angry with them instead. This is just a general example but most of us, now that it has been bought to our attention will begin to notice how we have far different expectations from our partners than we do our friends. # Practice fair and controlled arguments Arguments are a natural part of any relationship. It is important to keep these arguments in perspective and fair. Forget the name calling and the accusations, we may be able to apologize sincerely for the things we might say in an argument, but we cannot un-hear the things that we have heard. True or not those words said in an argument have a way of hurting. Remember that nothing is resolved while forgetting what the argument was about, it is best to keep the argument on topic. Sometimes it is better to agree to disagree and leave it alone as not all arguments give rise to a solution. An ongoing argument that leads into the wee hours of the morning while both partners our exhausted only contributes to our inability to think fairly or clearly. Fair and effective arguing is learn able, as it is a skill excellent for use in a relationship crisis. Effective and fair arguing is something that can be learned, and an excellent skill to learn when dealing with a relationship crisis. # Relationship counseling. Learn when to seek out their services If your relationship is in trouble, do not be afraid to seek the advice of a relationship counselor. First and for most you want to establish that your making a true and honest commitment to the relationship, and that one act increases the chances that the relationship will continue. It's no secret that sometimes the best advice you can ever act upon to to seek out the help of a trained professional. You must remember that a counselor does not tell you what to do, but rather provides suggestions on how to do it, leaving you to chose your own path in your relationship. There is a lot more to be learned than can be discussed in the paragraphs above, however a trained relationship counselor can help you to apply the right relationship advice that custom tailored just for you.
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