Relationships -The One Element That Exists In This World That Heals A Broken Heart

By: Alisa Chagnon

Time

We should be so grateful for time. Many of us are afraid of time. As each second passes, it marks one more moment that our life has past by, and marks one more moment that we are closer to the time given to us on this earth. However, when one is suffering the emotional pain of a lost love, time can be the savior to our souls.

Many of us are afraid of time. As each second passes, it marks one more moment that our life has past by, and marks one more moment that we are closer to the time given to us on this earth. However, when one is suffering the emotional pain of a lost love, time can be the savior to our souls.

When faced with the end of a relationship, severe emotional pain can set in. It does not matter if the relationship had a dawdling and painful death or if the end came about in a swirl of astonishment. The bottom line is that when a person truly loves another, and that relationship has broken up, a person can go through one of the most difficult phases of their life.

Everyone deals with pain and loss in different ways. Some take the route of denial, perhaps diving into their careers or personal hobbies as a way of deflecting the emotions that they are feeling. The majority of people have the more common reaction. That reaction is one of grief, sorrow and depression. Depending on how much a person depended and trusted someone, the depression can reach exceedingly high limits. Feeling betrayed by someone that we put all trust into, can drop a person into a deep, dark hole of misery.

There is no answer to fixing a broken heart. There are no words to suffice to fix the pain. There is no magic way to bring back a lost love and restore balance to a world that has been turned upside-down. There is, however, time. Precious time. If not for time, one would suffer endlessly. When dealing with a broken heart, it may seem that the pain will never end. That is when the simple word “time” will bring relief even to those most pessimistic of its power.

No matter how much a person is hurting, no matter how deep the scars and how ripped apart one’s heart feels, time is the one factor that will slowly repair the heart and mind of the heartbroken. Most people who are suffering and mourning a lost love, do not wish to think that time will fix anything. The pain can be so overwhelming; the word “time” provides no relief. Luckily, even if a person does not care to acknowledge time and does not believe time will fix anything, it does not stop “time”. Time is one of the only things that is consistent and everlasting. Time stops for no one. Time will happen whether one wishes for it or not. Moreover, time will cure a broken heart.

When feeling the first onslaught of devastation from a breakup, terrible depression may set in. Cutting him or herself off from society, unwilling or unable to function properly, people can hide within themselves, not wanting to deal with reality. Time does not appear to help much in this phase, except for the important and mere fact that it is happening. As each day passes, a person is crying, praying for relief and wishing so strongly for their love to be restored, time is there. It is beside us. It is slowly ticking by, and is silently providing us a future escape from the pain.

As the days progress by, time has moved us from the horrific first days of shock and disbelief into the first weeks of the pain. The shock has subsided a bit; the crying may have decreased by now. A heart may still feel pain; however, it is slightly less incapacitating. Time was there, and time was helping us, whether we wanted it to or not.

One or two months after a breakup, the world begins to look different. The severe, debilitating pain has lessened by now. A feeling of the heart stabbed at every mention of love or relationship has ceased. We may even be able to smile at a joke or a humorous television show. While perhaps not ready to meet someone new, or enter the dating scene quite yet, time unwittingly moved us into a more settled and comfortable zone.

Several months after a breakup, or even up to a year later, time has then moved us to a new place in life. A place that we at one moment, we did not believe existed. The sting of the breakup is gone and the suffering has stopped. We can once again function normally. The prospect of finding a true love appears to be a possibility. The love that we so sorrowfully mourned is a memory now. The person’s face has become a blur. Time was there, all along to help us. It did not care that we did not believe. It dutifully did its job.