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If you have ever had a road rage incident occur in your life: if you've ever been driven off the road, or had someone glare at you, gesture obscenely, or shake a fist at you; if someone has ever tail-gaited you so tight that you did not dare to slow down, or if someone threatened you by following your car into a shopping mall, you have known the feeling of fear. You instantly respond with stress: white knuckles, wildly beating heart, short breaths, frozen impulses- or the wild rising of rage to retaliate. Either way, it was not the way you wanted it to be. You were not in control. Forgetting that incident may take a while, maybe a long while. In the meantime, there are opportunities to take the edge off that stressful feeling that comes up every time you are in circumstances that remind you of "the incident." You may not have forgotten the incident, but you can prevent those memories from gathering momentum and filling you with terror all over again.This time you will be in control. You will not be the victim of road rage this time. You are going to reach into your First-Aid Kit and apply. First, take a deep breath, just let your lungs fill all the way up, then relax as you breathe out. Do it again. And again.Second, when you come to a stop sign, look at the picture on your visor, the one you put there just for this special occasion (or no special occasion at all.) It is the picture of your beloveds. People you love add support with their love for you, and seeing them makes life better.Third, when you come to a red light, put your arms around yourself and give yourself a true hug. Nourish yourself with the comfort it provides. It's a scientific fact that hugs are healing.Fourth, thank the Divine Power for keeping you safe at this moment and on this journey.Fifth, send good words to crazy drivers; they need it.Sixth, forgive the person who frightened and threatened you and express gratitude for being who you are and for not wanting to be a road rager in retaliation.The sense of being haunted by a road rage experience may only be gone for the moment, but the First-Aid Kit is there for as long as you choose it use it. It's there when you need it, and it is an opportunity to be in control again.When will you put a beloved's picture on your visor?
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LILLIAN SWANSON lives in Southern Maine, soaking up the flavor of the seacost. Much of her life has been spent in teaching and counseling, enlarging and enhancing the quality of life for her students. Through her website, www.tametherage.com, Lillian intends to use driving as a metaphor to pass along an understanding of how to take control of the emotions that lead to road rage. She is committed to saving lives and making driving an enjoyable experience again
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