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I’m sure I’ve wrote about this in another variation, but it’s worth mentioning again.It’s frequently the case that it is not what is being said, but also how it is said and when it is heard. Timing plays a big role in our learning process as well as in our moments of inspirations. So, for those that have read previous articles and newsletters that may have touched on this topic, here’s to hoping this reads slightly differently and gives you a fresh outlook on life and business. After all, it is my stance that it’s not enough to try to help and teach, but to also try different ways of reaching people. There are many ways to teach and inspire. It wouldn’t be fair to use just one approach all the time.Take a moment to think of a couple of instances when you started something, only to eventually stop for what seems no apparent reason.Started going to the gym, and stopped after a couple of weeks or months?Working on your business regularly for months, then stopped?Working at keeping a positive attitude, only to fall back into being negative?Working on your relationship, and when things are great, you get lazy again?Keeping track and working towards your written down goals on a daily and weekly basis, only to stop after a few months? Those are just a few examples, but think of your own. You’ll get a lot more out of this article if you relate it to something personal. I don’t want you to judge or think ‘why did I do that’ – just get that even in your head and use it for this article.There are a lot of reasons why we stop doing things even though they’re working well for us. There is an abundance of reasons, yet there a ‘One Size Fits All’ answer. Every person is a unique situation. It could be fear of failure, self-sabotage, poor planning, not having the proper skills, a bad plan, a limited business idea, a faulty product, etc. There are many reasons. I’m not going to get into that here. There are far too many scenarios to cover justly in a short article. However, I believe if you’re honest with yourself and document what you were doing when things were working well for you, versus what you were doing when things started to fall apart, you should then be able to get a glimpse into what may have caused the slip up.If you are still having trouble figuring it out, and it is of concern to you, then just contact me (contact info below) and reference this article. I’ll give you a free 30 minute coaching session to get you on your way.Regardless of whether you clearly know why you have these lapses in consistency, what matter most at this point is being able to recognize this lapse and continue on. How many times have you looked back on something and thought ‘why did I stop doing that?’ or ‘If only I had kept going to the gym regularly for the past year’ or ‘if only I had worked my business for 15-20 hours consistently for the past year…’You look at all those ‘if only’ and ‘what if’ statements, and it makes you wonder as to how far along you might be and how different your life would be now. It’s enough to get you a little down and frustrated. What do you do at that point? Most people just think to themselves ‘man, that’s too bad’ and continue on with life, not doing what they regretted not doing. Make sense? Read it again.The key, again, is to notice the lapse and get back to doing what was working. Leave the emotion out of it. Do not waste time thinking about ‘what’s wrong with me?’, ‘this always happens’, and the like. Just pick it back up again.Everyone who has ever succeeded at anything ‘failed’ at it first. From failure comes our greatest lessons, as well as an opportunity to build our mental strength and self-esteem. You must learn to fail forward.Unfortunately, we were taught as kids that failing is bad. That it is something to be ashamed of. Getting a big, red F on a test as a child was one of the most humiliating events and strongest blows to self-esteem that we could experience. It was laughed at by your peers, and looked upon with disappointment by the teacher. While the grade is deserved, the manner in which it is handled has set many people up for a life of fear. Fear of failure.The child should be taught at that point to learn from his mistakes. What did you not get right, and why? They should be taught to fail forward, not to be penalized and paralyzed by their mistakes at such a young age.Well, I’m giving you permission now to forgive yourselves for your ‘failures’ and mistakes and let them go. For as long as you hold on to these non-supportive thoughts, you will be forever defined by your past – leaving you no opportunity to create a better future for yourselves.It’s best to learn to notice these lapses quickly. In the beginning, that may not happen. That’s fine, don’t worry about it. You can start by looking back – without judgment – on the recent past and jotting down any events that come to mind where you dropped the ball on something. Do not judge, just write down on paper what you were doing when it was working versus what you were doing when it stopped working. Compare the two and see what you come up with.Schedule time every week – just 30 minutes every Sunday evening will do before your week starts. Pick a spot (and office, if you have one) with no noise and distractions. Spend this time to plan out your schedule for the week. Even if you do not feel like doing this, just go sit in your spot for the half hour. Developing the habit is just as important as the task you want to accomplish.Also review the past week briefly during this time. How did it go? What did you do? What did you not do? What worked? What didn’t work? Have specific questions prepared that you answer every week. Type them up in a template and print out 52 of them (one for every week in the year), so that every week you’ll just sit down, pull one out and answer it.Make it a point in your schedule – however it works for you – to do a grand review every three months. Every three months, review where you are and see what needs to be kept and what needs fixing.Learn to do these review regularly and without judgment. When you do that, you’ll be able to keep yourself in check and your lapses will become shorter and shorter until they eventually become small hiccups.Again, it doesn’t matter whether this is for business or personal reasons. It’s all the same. Learn to be forgiving yet stern with yourselves. It’s a tricky combination, but it’s one that will work miracles for you!To Your Success
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Adel M Refai
Adel is an online marketer, a marketing coach, and a fundraising consultant whose passion is teaching others how to market their businesses for profit; teaching the importance of combining a system with the correct mindset for success.
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